I know I’ve posted about this already, so I apologize for the repeat. The thing is, I know you are a huge animal (especially dog) lover like myself. When you lost your pup, how did you cope? How did you deal with the grief and move forward without your best friend/fur baby by your side? Do you have any tips for dealing with the grief? Because, it’s been 4 days now and I feel like this isn’t getting easier and that I’m alone in the world now that my rock, my support is gone. If you don’t have time or don’t feel comfortable answering this question, I understand. But I would greatly appreciate any words you could offer. Megan saved my life. Especially during Covid, she’s what kept me going. I know you said that your dogs also helped you in very much the same way, which is why I’m reaching out now.
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I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with all that. Grief is never easy. And you’re absolutely right. It’s okay to grieve, but I have to keep being the person Megan saw me as. Make her proud just as she made me proud. I was blessed to have had her for almost 13 years and all but the last few months she was in excellent health. I still feel pangs of guilt that maybe there’s something I should have done differently. But 2 specialists and 2 regular vets said that we exhausted everything and that euthanasia was the kindest thing we could do for her. So, if they couldn’t find a cure or treatment for her than there’s no way I could. I was talking with my mom tonight. She said time has a way of healing things. And that doesn’t mean I’ll forget about her or stop missing her but that slowly the sadness and emptiness I feel will be replaced by a feeling of peace and happiness when I think about her and that will be enough to help me slowly move on with my life. And that just made me realize that I’m not alone. My brother made a memorial for her and my mom has been supporting me and helping me talk through it. And I have you guys, whom I’m very grateful for.
Grief doesn’t get easier—it just becomes a part of us. Because everyone will mourn at some point in life as long as we love. Every day, when you wake up, make a decision: will you cry because you lost her, or smile because she brought so much joy to your life that you will never forget? It’s okay to not be okay. But happiness is your choice too. The first couple of months are the hardest but you have to keep going or your life becomes suspended in grief. If you feel that way, don’t be afraid to seek help. And never, I mean NEVER, allow people to invalidate your feelings. They’re not qualified. Good luck.